People don't get a say on which race or gender (edit: sex) they're born as. That's partly why race and gender are protected classes. "People who own Bitcoin" isn't a protected class.
Sure, it might feel upsetting. But is it true?
It seems true. And that has merit.
But so does your side of it. So it's a balance.
I'm not sure why "don't be an asshole to whole groups of people" is so controversial, though.
Edit: My comment was tongue in cheek. It’s kind of funny that not only genders are like the twin towers, but even saying that sex is determined at birth can be a sensitive issue.
The basis of protected class is more visibility and history of non-germane discrimination than innateness, which is why religion is a protected class.
Was it also deliberately deceptive to interpret Trump's famous statement about Mexicans as a slur on the whole group? I don't think so.
I observe people of all sorts making ambiguous statements deliberately in order to express bigoted opinions while not engaging with those who may be offended.
None of this implies I think defending "nerds" as a class is important - but I don't think being offended is necessarily "deliberately deceptive".