"I thought that F=ma is actually a definition of the concept of force."
Yes, that is part of what millstone was getting at.
The root of the problem is that for a long time, people were taught since elementary school that the equality symbol was not symmetrical, but was something more like a => symbol; you take the things on the left and can produce the things on the right, usually via some vague idea of simplification. In other words, 2 + 2 => 4; "from 2 + 2 I can produce 4", but people with this misunderstanding (which is a lot of people) will resist 4 = 2 + 2, reading it as 4 => 2 + 2. They'll often have a hard time articulating the problem, but it'll boil down to the fact that you're not "allowed" to "unsimplify" like that. It turns out you can get quite far in the standard math curriculum with that misconception, somewhere round about "factoring equations by completing the square"[1], and even farther if you just learn those handful of exceptions of one-off tricks and never go into a field of work where one way or another you need to deeply understand what is going on.
(Some people complain that you can see this misconception in the standard programming definition of =, which runs the other direction, and isn't a statement that "these two things are equal" that may be true or false, but is a command to assign this value into that slot. It's a natural outgrowth of the incorrect = understanding.)
I remember in physics that it took us collectively quite a while to get that it was not F => ma, or ma => F, that it was not that there was a "force" and a "mass acceleration", but that they were the simply the same thing. There is no free-floating "force" that can be "converted" into "mass acceleration", they are so inextricably the same thing that there was no difference. And I was in a fairly advanced and educated class at the time.
While I tend to dislike the common core in many ways, one admirable thing about it is that it is attempting to correct this mistake; as soon as = is introduced for simple arithmetic, children are given ____ = 2 + 2 as often as 2 + 2 = ____, and only slightly later than that they are getting 2 + ___ = 4.
[1]: http://www.purplemath.com/modules/solvquad3.htm It's been a while since I did this stuff, and you may not have had the exact same order as me anyhow, but this is the first time I can think of where we had to deliberately "complexify" an equation in order to solve it. And I can still recall the gears skipping in my head as I tried to deal with this, even as to me now it's nothing at all and I do an analogous thing quite often.