http://www.facebook.com/#!/settings/?tab=privacy§ion...
Click "Edit your settings" down at the bottom left.
Click "Edit your settings" on the "Instant Personalization" setting.
Uncheck the box on the next page.
Click "Edit your settings" down at the bottom left.
Click "Edit your settings" on the "Instant Personalization" setting.
Uncheck the box on the next page.
[✓] Enable instant personalisation on partner websites. Note: instant personalisation is not yet available for you.
The tick is greyed out, so I guess it's not yet active. But I have no way of telling when it will become active, and no way of disabling it preemptively. Another reason to only log onto facebook in incognito/privacy mode.