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I do that, I'm not the owner either. My wife just had a son, so I definitely have a family. Add on top an hour and a half commute each way and it can be a little difficult at times to have family time I'll admit.

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"Having a family," as in, relatives that physically exist, is obviously different from "having a family you value spending time with." I think it was clear the GP was talking about the latter.

For some people, quality time with family is better than quantity. The key is to have those hours or days with the family focus. This is not even a workaholic or tech thing - it's the way military families have worked for centuries.

Well I have a wide and son, which I quite enjoy spending time with. Not sure how you managed to take from anything I said that I don't.

Some of us don't have a choice but to work jobs that require that many hours to pay the bills.

so with your schedule, you would be away from your family from 7:30am to 10:30 pm, 6 days per week.

I doubt your spending any more than 30 mins per day with your son on weekdays.

Correct, I'm hoping to move a little closer to work to cut some of that commute off soon.

My day off is all about family, so it's daily planned :-)

* very well planned *

Too late to edit haha.

so the other person's point is that although you have a family, you're not spending a lot of "quality" time with them

Why would you do that?

I hope you manage to reduce your hours until your son is old enough to remember whether you were there or not.

I'm a chef, these are the hours expected of in this industry.

15 hours a day away from home with an infant? Good god, man, stop! Spend some time with your wife and kid, or one day you'll wake up and they'll both have moved out because it's been years since they actually saw you conscious and you no longer have any kind of connection.

(Unless you're doing this just for a very limited time for a very good reason. But don't let it become a lifestyle!)

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