> justifying like this strikes me as pointless virtue signaling.
Agree 100%. This part is especially troubling:
> Feelings have no “technically correct.” They’re just what the feeler is telling you. When someone tells you how they feel, you can pack up your magnifying glass and clue kit, cuz that’s the answer.
If I say "The sky is blue" and you say "That's offensive to people who aren't blue", you're just wrong. End of story.
It's sad that this is even worth saying, but that's what our micro-aggression and victimhood-obsessed society has come to. People are practically competing to see who can be the most offended.