Try and talk to her about tech and you won’t get much out of it. At home she watches Netflix and does her nails. No HN, Reddit or anything. No conferences.
Tell her she needs to learn language X and tools Y and Z and she’ll master it in a week. She’ll deliver 10x what everyone in the team does. Top performer in no time.
I can’t really wrap my head around it. I’m your typical tech enthusiast always here on HN, coding on my own time, etc. And yet if we were on the same team I’m sure she’d be orders of magnitude more productive than me. Which can be seen by the fact she makes almost twice what I make (am also an SDE at a large company), and is at a higher level despite starting 2 years later than me.