I go back-and-forth with this in the case of my wife, who works at a large tech company. On the one hand, she's quite capable of doing the job without special treatment. But on the other hand, if the odds really are stacked against her...

She's a big girl and can make her own decisions, I just wonder what I'd do were I in the same boat. Probably the same thing she (and from the way it sounds, you) would do: mostly avoid the drama that such groups can bring.