One important caveat here to add. Just as it is not a failing black kid's problem ALONE that he does not have the opportunity to have a stable family and proper education, so is its society's burden to educate these men on etiquette AND provide them with a stable worldview that does not belittle them for not being like the demigods seen on tv (same as how we should not shame women for having body image issues, but rather tackle advertisement instead).

I wont say its entirely society's fault, but we cant just ignore the problem. As that leads to Brexit, Trump,etc.