Take the things the kid like first, for a while, like no videogames fo a week, or two. If the nocive behavour dosen't go away, increase the time.
It's also hard to control for whether it's a single spank for discipline used only when the situation warrants it or routine, arbitrary or random spanking. There's probably going to be psychological abuse or neglect coming along with it if it's the latter but far less likely for the former.
My personal feeling is that if researched well, the data would probably show that in small children, some form of physical punishment would be shown to be effective and leave no lasting psycological issues. I just don't think there's any good evidence either way.
also direct feedback is important for young children as they won't know what they did wrong hours down the line.
"The results indicated that effect sizes significantly favored conditional spanking over 10 of 13 alternative disciplinary tactics for reducing child noncompliance or antisocial behavior. Customary physical punishment yielded effect sizes equal to alternative tactics, except for one large study favoring physical punishment. Only overly severe or predominant use of physical punishment compared unfavorably with alternative disciplinary tactics."
In short:
conditional spanking - more effective that 10/13 other disciplining methods
customary spanking - no more or less effective than other disciplining methods
severe / predominant use of spanking - worse than other methods
The rest of the material available without access to the full paper just seems to back the assertion that data is poor on this topic, and there are methodological issues that make it hard to assess different levels of physical punishment seperately.
I'm not going to get into a deep back and forth over this, but nothing I am aware of shows spanking of any sort has good long term effects on behavior and pretty much every piece of literature out there points to corporal punishment being effective for getting a kid to cease acting out, but either ineffective or worse for long term behavior changes.
And sure, maybe being super calm and measured with your application of corporal punishment will prevent it from doing damage. Just seems like a strange path to take when there are effective ones out there that don't require violence or the threat of violence against children.
Usually the first measure would she put me staring the wall for a few minutes. To a children that was horrible since I was really bored with the punishment.
In more than one occasion she forget that I was in the "thinking corner" and found me sleeping on my feed, suported by my face in the wall.
> In a meta-analysis of 26 studies, Larzelere and a colleague found that an approach they described as “conditional spanking” led to greater reductions in child defiance or anti-social behavior than 10 of 13 alternative discipline techniques, including reasoning, removal of privileges and time out (Clinical Child and Family Psychology Review, 2005). Larzelere defines conditional spanking as a disciplinary technique for 2- to 6-year-old children in which parents use two open-handed swats on the buttocks only after the child has defied milder discipline such as time out.[0]
There are ways to change behavior, and striking a child is one of them, but you are not going to get the behavior changes you are after.
On Gershoff's meta-analysis, from your meta-analysis link:
"...most of the research on physical punishment “lumps” together nonabusive and customary punishment with overly severe forms of physical punishment. For example, 65% of the studies in Gershoff’s (2002) meta-analysis included overly severe physical punishment in their measure, according to Baumrind et al. (2002). Examples ranged from vaguely defined “punitive discipline” (6% of the studies), composite measures of the frequency and severity of physical punishment (29%), and the inclusion of extreme violence (31%), such as slapping in the face (seven studies), beating up (three studies), or hitting with a fist and causing bruises and cuts (one study)".
The parent comment specifically mentions punishment at the very bottom of the scale and guradualy escalating from non-physical punishment.
Fear is definitely a solid deterrent though, no doubt.
Parents need to get off their phones, computers, TV's and spend time with their kids. I live on a street of maybe 30 or so houses. And I have two small children. I know there are other families with small children and I have never once in the 4 years I've lived on this street seen them outside playing with their kids. I play with my kids outside everyday, when weather permits. It is sad. Technology, especially TV and computers, and cars have destroyed community. Not totally, but almost.
Don't even get me started on teenagers with phones. My children will be getting flip phones for calls only and very limited texting.