Yes, easily:
1. Don't press release (or tweet); treat what you are doing with confidentiality.
2. Actually help in a way that's helpful.
Here's a good example http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2018/01/15/george-michael-secretly...
2) How do you know if Musk's help wasn't helpful? Do you work at the rescue site?
Very few of the people criticising Musk had the ability to do anything to help the kids. He is in a rare situation to have the flexibility and resources to make significant financial and/or logistical contributions to literally any cause he notices. In this case, he did it in the most self-aggrandizing way possible, while appearing to make no actual contribution.
True, but I recognize that I don't have any relevant skills or any way to help from the other side of hte pacific.
The main difference is I'm not tweeting about how I'm totally going to solve this, and then getting credit doing pretty much just that.
Instead, he wrongly assumed he knew better.
Where is this coming from? Do you always assume you know everything that other people are doing/not doing or thinking/not thinking?
The toxic nature on the internet is so disgusting and unnecessary.
Expecting and feeling entitled for help to arrive on your terms and conditions.
In fact you seem to have taken this a little tad too far. The observers wish to declare on what terms(moral, ethical or others) the victim and helper need to comply with to work with each other. With the observers themselves contributing nothing to improve the situation at hand.