On top of that, I too have noticed that parents often talk down to people that haven't experienced parenthood.
Almost as if becoming a parent is very difficult and gives you enlightenment that can be found in no other way.
Almost as if becoming a parent is very difficult and gives you enlightenment that can be found in no other way.
I'm being a little facetious here, but i'm just saying that everyones life situation is different. As a relatively new parent, In that situation, I can see it being incredibly hard to simply 'relax' at home. More than anything you'll finally have time to notice the liquified pees that has hardened on the ceiling than actually relax. When i was in my 20s every vacation was 2 weeks of Hostels and hikes, but we are all in different life situations and that doens't make one persons opinion of a 'vacation' more correct than anothers.
Why is parenting, something that gets lots of external support and understanding, the special one here, and not any of these other things? Depressed people don't get a "my life is so hard" horse to sit on continually, often quite the opposite, they have to work hard to hide it.
There's no evidence that parents are special people, none whatsoever, they are best described as people in a tough situation, but there are quite a few different ways to be in a tough situation, and tough situations do not always make people better.
Imagine this, and on the top of it being a parent of 3 young children. Unless parents are immune to these conditions.
But only one of these problems (parenthood) has a special social status.
You got it!
Now, the "talking down to" is annoying. But if it's about non-parents telling parents about how easy life should be, and parents replying along the lines of "fool, no." it's absolutely warranted.
Now I don’t talk down to non-parents, because they made that choice or had the choice made for them (temporarily or permanently).
It’s crazy stressful but at the same time so joyous.