I'm so in alignment with this. I've always hated standups. As a night owl, it's a morning meeting I have to make every single day and I hate it. I also don't understand how I can't just communicate in Slack to say "hey this is what I'm working on, this is what I worked on. Here are the questions I have." And move on. And if the PM prioritizes the backlog, always pick from the top just makes sense. And yes, retros feel like a place for extroverts to own the conversation (and I know, I'm an extrovert).