Don't you feel like you have control and are making decisions in every dream that you have?
Is it really that interesting if you happen to dream that you're controlling a dream vs dreaming that you're controlling your flight around the world or whatever nonsense we dream about?
I used to be able to do it a lot when I was younger - it still happens to me every once in a while now. But you KNOW when it happens - it's not at all like "a really real dream", it's something completely different.
I woke up to the sun beaming through the window into my eyes. Maybe I was more lucid/aware than usual for that reason.
But I have no way of knowing whether the control/awareness I had in that dream was any different than the illusion of control/awareness and decision-making I have in any other dream.
It seems like quite a leap to assume I was in control just because I dreamed I was.
I'm afraid not.
I've had some lucid dreaming experiences. For a normal dream, when you wake up you realize your actions during the dream were more or less just reactive/instinctual. During lucid dreaming, you can actually pause and contemplate the situation and your actions before making them.
When you're lucid dreaming, you can choose to wake up or stay asleep, although eventually (usually very quickly) one will start to happen automatically: either your brain will wake up or it will trick you back into dreaming.
I will say that when I'm having a genuine lucid dream, after I wake up, I know without a doubt it was a lucid dream. With regular dreams, I look back on them and don't exactly identify with my "dream self." That guy didn't realize how absurd the scenario was. He resembles me, but he wasn't me.
With a genuine lucid dream, I look back at the dreamer and can say, "yeah that was 100% me." Also, I find that becoming lucid always sort of pulls the dream into a more realistic scenario. It goes from chaotic and weird to just plain normal life (only, the rules have changed now).
So I guess what leads me to believe that I've had these "pseudo lucid dreams" is that I look back on them after waking and don't identify with the dreamer the same way I do with a genuine lucid dream. It feels more like I was watching someone else, like a recording, than as though it was a real firsthand experience
Maybe philosophically there is no difference. But it would certainly dispel a lot of the folk magic around lucid dreaming.
Check out Stephen LaBerge for more info. They found that while asleep, a person is basically paralyzed with exception to their eye movement. In a lab setting they were able to have the dreamer use a signal, using eye movement, that they were dreaming.
One thing they did was to test the theory that subjective dream time is different than time experience while awake. They did this by doing the eye signal, counting down 10 seconds, and then signalling again. They found that there was no "time dilution" when compared to wakefulness.