One of the reasons I'm not Christian is because Christianity posits that "god loves you" and acts like doing god's will is some kind of vending machine for getting everything you want out of life or something. The idea that "god loves you" unconditionally and will do your bidding and arrange life to suit your whims runs up against problems in a world of 7 billion people.
Similarly, the mods must balance the good of the whole against the good of the individual, and they must do so without the benefit of omniscience and omnipotence.
Asking specific individuals who have done X (in this case posting flamebait) to please not do X is one of the tools they have for trying to let individuals speak without it being unduly problematic for the forum as a whole.
Allowing individuals to do X and then trying to get after everyone else for "taking the bait" so to speak is just not a good way to handle things.
I'm fond of the mods. I think they do an uncommonly good job. Granted, I'm possibly biased because I appear to be the only woman to have ever made the leaderboard, so the way they currently handle things arguably works for me.
I wish you well and I hope you eventually find a way to interact with the forum that satisfies you. I personally think you are completely unnecessarily turning this into a hill to die on and that tends to lead to being banned if you persist long enough. That's just reality. The mods have to call it quits at some point when someone is regularly breaking the rules and refuses to cooperate when they are told the rules apply to them and they are currently breaking them.
But I really need to get on with my life. I have other things to tend to today and I was only foolishly engaging you yesterday because I was under the weather and, at such times, bad habits of mine tend to come to the fore, such as me trying to be kind and helpful to strangers even though there is a very long history of that biting me in the ass bigtime and I really should know better by now.
So you will need to excuse me, but I'm feeling better today and not so inclined to feel like "Fuck this shitty, shitty world and it's asshole rules about not being kind to people because looking out for number one is all that fucking matters." That's a form of temporary insanity I am prone to (that never fails to bite me in the ass when I indulge it) and I'm more rational today.
Ciao.