If the sun were to vanish completely, then an observer above the elliptic of the solar system would see Earth transition from an apparently curved orbit to a straight-line path approximately 8 minutes after the sun's vanishing.
I also think you contradict yourself in your last statement, in which you say that the gravitational field of the sun does take 8 minutes to reach earth.
I’m not totally sure why this doesn’t result in spiraling into the sun as you describe, but I think it’s because the sun’s gravitational field is basically constant, and it’s changes which propagate at the speed of light.
One quite mundane situation where one does need GR is compensating for the clock drift of GPS satellites caused by their height and speed relative to a ground-based observer (time is relative, not absolute as Newton thought!) Because positioning critically relies on very precise clocks, a non-adjusted satellite positioning system would very quickly start giving completely inaccurate results.
An eventual theory of quantum gravity may entail another viewpoint of gravity as a quantum field and mediated by a hypothetical graviton. But as of now we don’t have a good idea of what such a theory might look like; unifying QM and GR is famously one of the great unsolved problems in physics.
I really hope you meant speed of light there.
Regardless, this thing is still a mystery to me. Why, if gravity propagates at c (or, better perhaps: Changes in the space-time curvature, which is caused by mass-energy, propagate at c), why doesn't the earth spiral into the sun or away from it? If the earth is attracted to the point where the sun was eight minutes ago and not to where it is right now, it's orbit should not be stable. It's a very big difference compared to the "gravity is instant" way of Newton.
Besides this all, I still can't get anyone to give me a clear cut and dried answer on my original question. If gravity is instant in the Newtonian model, and that gives us stable orbits and all that, how does that translate to the Einsteinian model, where there's an upper speed limit of c? So, why would that even work, if the gravity of the sun takes 1au/c to get here and be felt by the earth? Or, is gravity somehow "above" this speed limit?