Hard work buys you more tickets in the game of life, but luck is always there to some degree. How much is luck, who knows :)
For example, when a large company collapses, being the very worst can be an asset to get out and into new companies earlier and through less critical processes (that then end up overly critical of the people trusted to shut off the lights).
Conscientiousness is ~44% heritable.
Genetically I'm not much of a runner compared to my brother, but I work hard at it 3-4 times a week. But if he got around to hitting a treadmill as much as I do I'm sure he'd outperform me.
You can do things to skew the distribution, but hard work is far from a guarantee of success, and likewise laziness is no guarantee of failure.
Then there always is the argument that you have access to a gym and markets with healthy food. You can always under/over exaggerate personal responsibilities.
Just like Brett Kavanaugh worked his ass off to get in Yale, which he probably did, is this negated by his family's connections? Difficult.
Empirical personal observation will always be very important.
If all scientific evidence says oranges are harmless, and you eat one and have to puke, then you'll avoid it, and rightly so, based on your empirical observation of 1.
You can't always do a large study, but when you're presented with one it doesn't help do give anecdotes in response.
No, but it's healthy to be skeptical of a study in face of contrary immediate experiences. After all it's a product of a flawed human process (and most are crap, even according to researchers themselves).
Have you overcome any longstanding relationship issues with anyone in your life? have you supported someone through a mental breakdown?
The very fact that you measure your success "over" your colleagues to me highlights that at no point have you been working towards making a better world.. I mean its cool that you are an aspie and all but ts actually of not much use to the humanity.
I know my comment is shitty, but i get depressed that i work in an industry that has its head so far up its own arse that the people who work in it forget that it only has value in helping people do things.
If you are not helping people do things (e.g. you are not making a tool you are trying to sell some pish or something) then you are not a benefit to humanity. and if it was not for the other peopl ebeing off doing things themselves anyway then everything you do would be of no use.
All technical skill is inherently an order of magnitude less valuable as it is a second order skill - this is something that most people in IT really dont want to accept and they cause a lot of hate and pain in the mean time trying to convince everyone else they are right - normally through bully, intimidation and the general lack of empathy that goes hand in hand with all of this.
https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
(Also, it's not ok to have a trollish username on HN, since that basically trolls every thread the account posts to.)