One person not an immediate family member remembered to wish me a happy birthday when it came up. One.
It confirmed a lot about us and how much is informed by blue F company.
I don’t think it’s because people don’t remember you though, I think it’s because Facebook has trained us to let it be our assistant for birthdays. It’s also made you used to having tons of people “remember” you, even though they would have never done so before Facebook. It’s really a lonelyness machine in that regard.
When I left Facebook for a period I didn’t remember birthdays either though. I’ve since added birthdays to my contacts so my Callander app is now responsible for being my birthday assistant instead of Facebook.
I also always send a SMS or call and never congratulate on Facebook, exactly because it’s so shallow.