Having worked with several autopilots in sims, they are extraordinarily user UNfriendly and unnecessarily complicated.
But, aviation is extremely conservative (and rightly so) and as such, changes and improvements are very small and incremental.
But then, I learned driving with stick, not automatic. I am a representative of your "give me more control" group. Even in other things, I find that there are a lot of automated systems around that do nothing for me because they don't quite behave as I would like and I have not enough control over them to adjust them. The more advanced mu knowledge in a certain area is, the more control I would like to have over related devices.
Low-power automatics (like the one I rented a couple of weeks ago) can be constantly shifting up and down on long up-grades, unless you lock them in a lower gear.
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