This way I dont do any work nor know those i swiped right on didnt swipe back. I only learn of all those who swiped right then I filter through and start conversations.
This way I dont do any work nor know those i swiped right on didnt swipe back. I only learn of all those who swiped right then I filter through and start conversations.
Even if only 1/100 women will swipe-like you, Tinder and OkCupid bubble those women to the top of your swipe session. You don't need to dig through 100 women to find them.
It also works against you to have dozens or hundreds of stale matches accumulated. By the time you get around to sending messages, the women likely don't even remember you, or maybe aren't feeling you as much because it's 9:30am on Monday instead of 9:30pm on Friday.
What I recommend is to treat Tinder as a queue where you only want 3-5 conversations realized at a time, and you only want to realize the next enqueued woman when you are ready to plan a face-to-face meetup. For example, if you only go out on Friday and Saturday, it'd be best to match them on Weds-Sat rather than Monday so you can strike while the iron is hot.
When a woman declines your attempt to stoke a stale fire or your 2nd attempt at scheduling a date, then she falls out of the realized group.
I'm 30 and have been a voracious Tinder user since I was 24, and I think this is the ideal angle of approach. Sitting on matches tickles the ego but cools off the striking iron.
Something needs to make online dating easier and more balanced!