Best thing I ever did was find a therapist that I really clicked with. The accountability and lack of judgement really helped me make progress.
And a bit of progress can be really encouraging.
Support is really important. I wouldn't have made it on my own. My email is in my profile, so please don't hesitate to use it.
I get that you are acting in good faith, but at the same time I get the feeling you consider the OP to be in "a sad place" based on nothing but social norms.
50 years ago many people would have told you that homosexuality is not something people are wired for based on biological norms. Luckily, this has changed.
Maybe you have never made the experience yourself, but being told you need to change something about yourself that you are happy with just because it is not "normal" is a pretty terrible thing.