We give up our address, work, car details, children's records to a government that we, the people, indirectly control by means of democratic process.

Not every populace thinks of themselves and their government as we and them. To some it's just us.

Granted, sometimes the people we put in charge fuck up, either because there was no clear signal from the populace since few people cared or because opinions of politicians and the populace diverged since the last election.

And when I feel proportionally (relative to the amount of people sharing my views) represented, I have no reason to call the Government them.

Might be different in a system where you need to get at least 50% of the votes to get any representation at all and where that same system has managed to maneuver itself into essentially only having two parties.