I lot of the issues you mentioned really are meant to address problems faced by teams working on a project at scale. I really didn't understand the need for GraphQL until I was put on a project where we had multiple REST endpoints we needed to query data from, new people were joining every week, and communication + data requests across different teams required a significant portion of everyone's time.

The issues you mentioned are issues if you want one (or a few) framework or library to handle all of your web development needs, but rarely does one library work for web development at scale.