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I just went through a divorce very recently and was in a very similar situation (great as friends, not so much as lovers after 10y) !! Was very friendly.

A mix of sadness and relief, was certainly for the best. We continue to be great friends and talk as often as when we were married.

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How did you and your SO start talks about getting divorced?

Hmm one year and a half before separating we recognized that we needed to improve our "romantic" life, some stuff was tried from both sides and ultimately we decided that we didn't see each other as "lovers" anymore but only as friends and it would be for the best to not try to be married anymore.

It's always baffled my why a "romantic" life needs to be so hard for both parties to agree how it should work. You just do it. You make it a priority.

Yet "romantic" life is a huge issue for so many married couples. If I asked every one of my couple friends I get I would get a 100% or at least 99%.

Thanks for sharing. Helpful.

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