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My main gripe with Signal is that it requires your phone number and you cannot setup your own instance.

A major turn off for me.

FTR and as a user of Telegram who has often recommended it:

Telegram also requires your phone number.

Telegram does not require your phone number, you can set it up with just a user name.

No, you can share just your username, but you need a number to sign up.