I mean, this very linked article lays out the finances of some people who are doing just that and it appears to be the result of some very expensive personal choices rather than a fact of life.
Smartasset puts the take-home at 333k, 270k more than a household bringing in 80k. https://smartasset.com/taxes/new-york-tax-calculator#gO77UAY...
How are kids adding a quarter of a million dollars per year in costs?