Ask HN: Is Chivalry Dead?
Is chivalry dead? In the tech world or the rest of the world?
Have you seen any chivalrous acts of late or have you been the deliverer/ recipient of one?
Have you seen any chivalrous acts of late or have you been the deliverer/ recipient of one?
IMO, engineers have a tendency to calculate the value more precisely. :)
For adoration of a female, one would want to calculate the liquid value she puts on the act - not what you deem the true value is. This is also known as "value based pricing." If one would calculate an act as not worth it, they could be potentially passing up a lucrative opportunity.
Put another way - think of it as the perceived value of cleaning up malware on your own computer, versus maybe what value your grandmother would place on such a task.
Well calculated chivalrous moments are always externally validated.
Go get 'em boys.
People are right that today women expect greater autonomy these days, to the extent that unless I know she's cool with it ahead of time, I am not going to order for her off the menu.
But gentlemanly behavior is not going to go "out of date" anytime soon
Is it dead for everyone? No.
My opinion? It damn well should be. Do it because you want to, not because your SO demands/expects it.
As far as Chivalry as the concept when the word came to mean the above definition, yes, and it was killed by women who were tired of being treated as inferiors. As always cultural norms change, being courteous has an entirely different set of connotations than it did three generations ago.