>the waiter asked if she would like butter on her bread. My friend waited for it to be added //
I've heard stories like this before. It sounds a bit stupid on the part of Trading Standards (TS).
Waiter: "Do you want butter"
Customer/TS agent: "Yes, please"
Then the TS agent prosecutes you for putting butter on their food. Well why did they ask for butter. I mean, I realise that people are sometimes absolute idiots but I don't think you should prosecute restaurants for serving what you ask for.
A story in our local press was that the TS agent said "no peanuts for me as I have an allergy, I'll have the lamb bhuna, ..." and then they ordered a load of dishes - as you would for a family - and they included in their order "chicken satay". They specifically asked for it.
Guess what the restaurant did, they gave them what they asked for. And Trading Standards prosecuted them and made them out in the press to be evil.
Now to me it sounded like the person was ordering a bhuna with no nuts and a load of stuff for other people, if they're stupid enough to order a nut dish isn't that their own fault?
I don't know what's happened to personal responsibility but the expectation for businesses to coddle people has gone too far IMO.
/rant