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So what's the takeaway here?

Literally the last paragraph:

"We can't always go through life-changing things to make other people happy ... and I had to learn that early on."

You could also spend 10 mins like my brother did and just change your name to something you like, maybe even name yourself after a celebrity, rather than the one assigned to you.

You shouldn't be forced to change your name just to be treated with dignity.

There are many things one is forced to do in life for instance sell most of your time for money so you are treated with dignity. A name is a small price to pay... most of your life spend doing someone else's bidding is something much worse, and yet most people do it.

But your name is something you have the ability to change once you're an adult (and even earlier in some cases if you insist on being called by a preferred name or nickname).

You don't have the ability to change how someone (everyone?) else reacts to an unusual name.

Literally the last paragraph:

"We can't always go through life-changing things to make other people happy ... and I had to learn that early on."

You shouldn't be forced to subject yourself to your parent's poor decisions.

Depending on where you live, changing your name can be much more of a hassle than this. My wife did it recently, and the whole process took several months and cost nearly $1000 all told. It involved filling out a bunch of paperwork, taking ads out in two legal newspapers, and a court date.

Could you elaborate on the ads? Those seem unnecessary.

Some jurisdictions have rules that you need to "publicly announce" important events, and newspaper ads are still considered "the" way of doing so.

Yep; this was in Pennsylvania, which is apparently one of the more onerous states.

The stated purpose is so that you can't change your name in order to (for example) escape debt. So the way to do this is to pay to put an announcement in a legal periodical. She had to do it in two separate places: one was mandated (The Legal Intelligencer, which sounds like something out of Harry Potter), and she had the choice of a few others, of which she picked the cheapest one.

The ads themselves didn't cost $1000, but the whole process (including changing the name on her passport, etc.) came close to that.

The takeaway is that if you judge people based entirely on how "normal" their name is, you're a bad person.

I'm not judging her, I'm judging her parents.

Naming your child after an illegal and, at the time, much less accepted narcotic and an amoral beverage conglomerate seems to be short sighted in the least. At least the man who named his son "Sue" knew it would give him trouble.

I am glad she has come out of it ahead, and I wish her all the best in the world. It is shameful that teachers acted the way they did.

Viral crap making the rounds.

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