Wow, I don't even know where to start. You are right that the alleged relationship is actually the most interesting part of the story. Because it shows what's so wrong about the user base's reaction: Without any merit - reminiscent of GamerGate (see my other comment) - a secret relationship is alleged that of course biases every actor involved. The community piles onto one user without any good reason, except that she is a woman. And her behavior, writing about topics that counteract certain problems in the community (and are thus almost an act of resistance), is disdained by the insecure, predominantly male, user base that feels attacked by the implicit political act in her presence and writing focus.

Every single sentence in your comment is without a factual base - and you still manage to make massive leaps of logic between them. It is clear that you are motivated by an anti-feminist standpoint that has little connection with actual reality or contemporary feminist thought. And for some reason, you deem it justified to harass users for it. If a substantial portion of Wikipedia's user base is like you, then that's pretty unhealthy.