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the creepy part is going to a public place and sexualizing it by explicitly seeking out "pretty girl"s and buying them drinks.

Going out and seek genuine connections with people instead of buying "pretty girl"s drinks is not creepy.

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You don't go in a bar for a deep conversation, you have the library and local groups of interests for that. A bar is just for relaxing and socialization, you can talk anything you want as long as you find someone to listen (or ignore) you.

Libraries, at least in the US, are mostly silence zones apart from information/checkout areas. There are still a few independent bookstores left, and those are good. College is still the preferred and most popular setting to meet a quality spouse. Online should be considered one of many tools as an adjunct to IRL, but not the primary source.

I guess... if you looking for more common people... personally I'm looking for a striper named Stacy with a tatto in the lower back, dad Issues and in sometway will fuck my life... But hey.... wherether rocks your boat.

Relaxing and Socialization != Sexualizing a public place and solely trying to pick up women. Women want to go to a bar to relax too. Do you think they can relax when men are constantly trying to buy them drinks and calling them "pretty girls"?

Genuine connection != deep conversation.

I'm not really sure what you're trying to say here, beyond being an advocate for harassment.

I am not advocating harassment; I consider harassment if you offer someone a drink, she is refusing and you insist. Not the case. There are some unwritten rules in bars: if a woman is sitting at the bar alone, she may want a drink from some guys, not from anyone. If a woman is with some guy, she probably will not be interested and it is not a good idea to try. Showing some availability is inviting - not crying out loud "I want to be offered a drink by a tall dark stranger", but the meaning is the same. Not harassment. Females don't contact directly guys, they want to be asked and to be allowed to choose. Basic human psychology, no big deal.

Well, I would be happy if anyone would buy me drinks. Because uually I'm broke af.

Well, it dependends... last week I was drinkign a beer alone in my usual water shit hole, smoking a cigar... a guy came and ask for my ligther. In half a hour we where discussing the root causes of WWI. So... you can't have... but usually not with a girl you trying to impress.

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