Comment by mcdramamean | Hacker News Reader

Comment by mcdramamean | Hacker News Reader

Why do we need to "run away" from loneliness? Maybe we all need to spend more time alone AND off the phone to discover what really "makes us tick"? Find yourself, find a mission, find a purpose. Go do something. There is SOOOO much to be done... I mean it.. Like RIGHT NOW. If you don't have a mission.. Bruh... Go get one. Loneliness is simply childish. Children sit around and wish someone would talk to them. Adults go join other adults to make something happen; or they learn to be with themselves. If you can't find happiness within; it's not going to come from you visiting your parents, or seeing your grandchildren, or insert whatever Hallmark phrase you like. Sure being surrounded by people you love when you die will feel nice. But you can truly "rest in peace" if you know you tried your hardest to make a difference (and you actually do!.. Because you actually can...)

Choosing to be alone (isolation) is not the same as loneliness. Honestly, the world has changed a lot, and that might end up not being a big problem in the future; maybe having isolation become more socially accepted wouldn't be that bad.

The problem we are seeing right now is that it looks like everything is moving towards a kind of social-contact-unfriendliness. Too much stress, connection (the expectation of being always reachable, and therefore available for work), busy streets, dominated by cars, big and impersonal chain stores, etc. Many of these are not necessarily bad by themselves, but they also had an important role in social interaction that has shifted now, and we might need time to find new spaces and solutions for that interaction.

> you know you tried your hardest to make a difference

Did you actually do that? For how long?

Have you done this yourself and if so, how successful have you been?

The mind atrophies without enough actual social contact, and also a proven link to more stress and shorter lifespans.

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