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If the author is reading this, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the devastation you must have felt and must continue to feel.

It's important that you take care of yourself though. As someone who works in mental health, I've seen how these events sometimes have a way of affecting your mental state in a gradual and cascading manner. Please stay cognizant of you and your family's mental health in this difficult time.

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I'm divorced, with one young boy that I split time with my ex. Were this to happen to me, I am really not sure a mental health professional could help.

This quote FTA may have just changed my life:

"I’m guessing you have 1:1 meetings on the books with a lot of people you work with. Do you have them regularly scheduled with your kids? If there’s any lesson to take away from this, it’s to remind others (and myself) not to miss out on the things that matter."

I was logging on here to call out that quote specifically. My kids are both in college now, and we're empty nesters for the first time as of a week ago.

My advice to all of you with young kids is to follow that advice. Schedule 1:1 time with each of your kids, and make it more important than your most important meeting at work.

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