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Maybe it should be viewed as "doing ALL of the housework by woman"? If woman is burdened with taking care of everything, this is imbalance.

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Well, it depends if the man is burdened with earning all the money, doesn’t it?

While it’s not my preferred arrangement, some families have one partner worry solely about money, and another solely about the housework.

I think you mean one partner with the ability to leave the relationship

You don't suddenly become trapped in a relationship when you stop earning money yourself.

Your barriers to leaving become much higher when you're staying at home, haven't worked in years, and have a family. Thinking otherwise is dense.

I personally know people who are in relationships with horrendous people because they have no exit strategies. This is a common thing people talk about in stay at home circles.

The reverse is also true: People not leaving stay-at-home spouses because they feel guilty about how vulnerable they'd be. It's just a messed up power dynamic in general.

The math of leaving is the same, regardless of which parent initiates. Family income is split in half and then whichever parent gets majority custody gets additional money in the form of child support. People, men and women, get trapped in marriages. This happens because the economics of splitting one household income to pay for two households is brutal.

Leaving? What happened to "until death do us part"? Which is the context in which this kind of arrangement originated from. Apparently the deal has changed and all we can do is to pray that it won't change further...

The deal also doesn't include abusing your spouse, but here we are..

If you want to go farther back, only women were supposed to wear wedding rings, because it symbolizes the chains the men used to keep them,.. so I guess abuse was part of the arrangement, way way back.

If you go farther back, there’s no record of a tradition of a wedding ring at all.

World is not black and white. People are all over this spectrum. I would happily be stay-at-home husband if my wife could earn as much as us both. She can't but she earns good income. If I left all housework for her, she would not have enough time for work at all. Some women accept this, some even want this, BUT NOT EVERYONE wants this. The whole premise of Bill Gates charity is about enabling people to do what they want to with their lives.

I think the point from the article is: women never get the choice. Once they're born, their whole career path is laid out and set in stone.

You might think about how that's not the case where you live/according to your background. Congratulations on being born in one of the places where it's easy to succeed!

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