The typical language people use is imperative language where you state how to do something, while sql is a declarative language where you say what you want.

Since we are in the world of analogies, using an ORM is like taking a shovel and using it as a prop (without speaking) to explain excavator operator where to dig, how deep, how wide, what things to avoid etc. Except querying a database can be much more complicated. You might be successful with some simple tasks, but it will fall flat on more advanced things.

Anyway perhaps if databases would expose an interface and allowed you to directly write a query plan then that wouldn't be so bad? But then many people would complain that you need to know a lot ot use it, and also based on data your plan for the same data might need to be different to be fast.