Are you seriously equating misgendering someone with killing them?
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2018/09/1...
Obviously, misgendering someone is not likely to be the thing that triggers such an act. But it is part of a pattern of bullying and general disregard that transgendered people face every single day.
That's why misgendering is so insidious - it's stochastic terrorism. The person doing the misgendering can claim that they never meant any violence, but they're still increasing the chance of violence.