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Casual drug use is easily placed into your normal life. You do some MDMA or LSD or alcohol over the weekend and you're back in action on Monday so long as you regulate your frequency of raving.

I think I've figured out how people don't make friends though. They find identity reasons not to. "I have values and responsibilities. I cannot do this thing." Or "I am an X. I cannot hang out with these people."

Genuinely I'm quite happy with my friends. We hang out absolutely sober now and run 10ks and half marathons together. We have each other's location shared and meet many times a week and occasionally randomly text to see if we want to hang out.

I made the majority of these friends after the age of 30 and everyone told me you can't have this spontaneity at this age. Turns out you can. You just need to find the other people.

> Casual drug use is easily placed into your normal life. You do some MDMA or LSD or alcohol over the weekend and you're back in action on Monday.

And where are the average person's children over this weekend while the parent is busy getting high?

This assumes that everyone over the age of 30 has children or wishes to have some. Of course if you are really intent on starting a family you're going to have to sacrifice your free time and social life. It's a choice many people make but it's not mandatory.

If you have kids, then the answer is: With a babysitter, at Grandma's, staying with other friends? You can choose to limit your choices. Or you can choose otherwise.

Socializing as parents is easier anyway. But even if you don't want that kind of thing, then it's up to you to make your life.

Besides you can come to a festival with your kids. You can hang out with your friends while they're getting high and just not partake. When we camp for longer festivals at least one of us will just not do drugs at all so we can have an assured ride home. And there are definitely little children around (though it's not common) at some of the friendlier mainstream parties (like the Anjuna Weekender)

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