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It can get ugly. I did a gofundme to raise money for my daughter's stem cell treatment. Half my extended family doesn't talk to me anymore. I'm sorry I was short 20k in savings and couldn't figure it out on my own guys but I had to swallow my pride and do whatever it took.

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That is horrible! Families can be really nasty like that. For whatever a random comment on the internet is worth, I believe you did the right thing. And people who put this above the life of your daughter are not worth associating with.

Do they not talk to you because they gave you money? Or because somehow you bright the family shame for asking others for help? Or something else?

They don't talk to me because to them I was begging for money.

I'm sorry to hear that mate, but I totally get where you're coming from - pride is nothing compared to your daughter's life.

For what it's worth, I think you did the right thing. I know I would have done the same thing in your place.

> I'm sorry I was short 20k in savings and couldn't figure it out on my own guys but I had to swallow my pride and do whatever it took.

You did what you had to do given the realities, but I'm sorry and ashamed that as a society we put you in that position.

You did the right thing. Family is sometimes not even as good as friendship and we're conditioned all the time to think otherwise.

You did nothing wrong, you do what you have to do to help your daughter. She is massively more important than some silly concept of pride.

It sounds like they don't talk to you out of the guilt and embarrassment of not helping. You did nothing wrong.

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