While there is a lot of truth in what you say from my experience as well, and I can be defensive from all the disappointment and ineffective advice and often outright attack and blame over the years, I try to remember people mostly DO mean well and you never know when the right thing might hit. My only real chance in all these years came from a stranger speaking up. I've gotten some lovely messages of emotional support from a handful of people before as well. I'd rather people speak up than not personally...but yeah an effective solution would be ideal. I feel I am just too far in a hole for any standard ideas to work. If I was in a strongly social nation I'd be getting assistance no question. I can't survive in the Thunderdome in my situation.