As father to the best 8 month young man in the world I can't imagine even for a moment what that is like. I never ever comment on hacker news, I just wanted to say I'm deeply sorry anyone here may have lost their child.
That night his son passed away silently in his sleep - Not even 12 hours since we talked at the viewing about how surreal losing a child would be. Their baby simply stopped breathing. We’re all still in some level of shock.
Hug your little ones and appreciate the time you get with them. You never know when your life can go the other direction.
Please be good to "Paul", and do not expect him to "get over it" anytime soon. It doesn't work like that in my experience.
If he and family are ready for it, perhaps mentioning The Compassionate Friends -- along with its link I've posted elsewhere in this page -- might be gratefully received?
My local chapter is wonderful, and has kept my wife and I as sane as we are after losing our (only) son.
May peace be unto "Paul".
If you don’t mind my asking what part of the world are you in?