Former Secretary of Defense for two presidents Donald Rumsfeld once framed (brilliantly actually) the possible things we know.
... there are known knowns; there are things we know we know. We also know there are known unknowns; that is to say we know there are some things we do not know. But there are also unknown unknowns - the ones we don't know we don't know [1]
A while after someone (which I can’t trace back) made an interesting (and equally brilliant) observation - there is a fourth option - unknown knowns - that is, things we don’t know we know. In most cases, that person pointed out, the category contains, things we actually know, but prefer to pretend that we don’t.
So, what is a sensitive question?
A sensitive question is one for which the answer is an unknown known.
The cost of asking such a question in American society (and, obviously in SV) is dear. Avoiding them is free.
Ask carefully.