Also, I'm really interested in knowing if the fireball was performed by the automated abort system.
I would love these to be the answer, so looking forward to clarification.
As for the fireball, from the press conference I got the sense that the fireball was not triggered manually, that the rocket just broke up.
Again, on neither I'm 100% sure.
No, that was the rocket breaking up and exploding. If the range safety system had triggered, it would have blown up the second stage, which flew off and crashed into the ocean in a massive explosion
The capsule controlled the abort. It shuts down the main engines then lights it own engines. These things aren't instant, it takes a second to spin up turbo pumps and get fuel flowing and for the fuel in the lines of the main engine to flow out after it sends the signal - that's why the rocket exhaust was still burning as the abort system lit up.
It might not necessarily be an issue. The steps took only split-seconds anyways from what it sounds. Shutting down the main engines helps to escape but appears to not be required for a successful abort. The order might be required though (e.g. the commands need to be sent before the connection between the vehicles is severed) or just beneficial (maybe to give the turbo-pumps of the main engiens a few more moments to spin down already).