Attempts at meditation immediately becomes rumination, where I play through all the conversations I could possibly have in the coming day (and exploring the worst case scenarios), which leads to elevated stress, which makes the ADHD tendencies worse.
For example, try this: Sit down in a mildly uncomfortable position and close your eyes. Take slow deep breaths, focusing entirely on your breath. Count each breath. If your focus wanes at all from that task, stop counting and see how high you got. When I first start this exercise, it's pretty common for me to not even be able to hit 5. But after 6-7 days of this I can usually get up to the 45-60 range.
Polite or not, it really gets old.
It’s about training yourself to become better at 1) noticing you’re distracted and 2) bringing yourself back into focus. It’s pretty much muscle training except for your brain, specifically on improving executive functioning.
Very little of meditation actually follows the “pure zen enlightenment” that’s commonly associated with it. Of course sometimes I do get a few minutes of that close to the end of my meditating sessions, but it’s not my main priority when I meditate and the majority of the benefits really come from the portions where I’m getting distracted and working on improving my ability to get back to focus.