40 miles is a pretty long commute. A modern city shouldn't be optimized to make that experience the norm. Most trips are much shorter.
https://nhts.ornl.gov/vehicle-trips
I don't think we should optimize our cities for that.
If I had a five mile commute, I would use surface streets. Congested highways are full of people going far enough in roughly that direction that even the congestion plus the first/last mile is faster than countless stoplights on the direct route.