The bottleneck with databases is virtually never calculations on results (CPU), it's disk access and network latency and bandwidth.
And generally, if you do have crazy complex CPU-bound calculations you need to do on data (e.g. scientific stuff)... SQL doesn't provide the necessary functions/control anyways, so the database isn't even an option for that.
The only issue I can imagine you might have run into at some point is complex queries badly written (e.g. recursive subqueries without indices) that you could speed up with application logic -- but then the solution is to optimize the query.
I/O is generally just about the slowest thing a computer can do. So, in general, the more you can reduce the data before sending it across the network, the better. And, heck, a well-crafted SQL query can often save you having to even read large chunks of data off of the disk in the first place, let alone pipe it across the network.
It's not unique to SQL/databases that at some point your user base may outgrow your current architecture and you may have to invest in something else.
It's dangerous to think you can skip this and just employ whatever architecture is "good" for bigger user bases from the start. There are different trade-offs in different systems and the trade-offs of most alternatives are not as well understood as the trade-offs of databases. I have seen more than one project implode when something which was simple with a database was far more complicated with the alternative.
Where is this meme that RDBMSs do not scale coming from? (I see lots of people saying this as though it is a given. Has there been any published data on this for me to read?).
It's a holdover from the heyday of noSQL. Was more true then, but RDBMSs have caught up. (At least some of them.) There's even Dqlite for SQLight!
It's also the kind of thing many developers don't like doing: thinking about operational concerns.
As an aside, horizontal scaling of sorts can be achieved by using microservices, it's actually one of the few really valid reasons for this type of architecture. If the microservice databases are not independent, you're doing it wrong.
Additional CPUs are $7,000 USD per core, and replication is labor intensive. Transactional replication has a nasty habit of breaking as the source tables are changed, and Availability Groups have a ton of bugs (as evidenced by any recent Cumulative Update.)
Saying that SQL Server scales is like saying your wallet scales to hold any amount of money. Sure, it might, but it’s up to you to put the coin in, and it’s gonna for a lot of coin - compared to scaling out app servers, who have generally near no license cost, and code is synchronized at deploy time.
As to recommending you a place to read, I hate to say this, but you could start with my blog. Pretty much every week, I’ve got real life examples turned into abstract tutorials on there from companies who hit scaling walls and had to hire me for help. (Past client examples: Stack Overflow, Google.)
Probably still cheaper than trying to impement scalable transactions in higher layers.
Transactions, yes, I totally agree. That's what databases are for: reliably storing and retrieving data. It's where you start doing domain logic that things get tougher, like (and I wish I was joking) calling cross-continent web services from the database and building HTML inside SQL.
Literally the second sentence ...
It mostly comes from people who don't know how and when to create an index.
They don't scale to Google or Facebook operational sizes. Once you get to a billion customers or so the ol' RDBMS tends to struggle. Because everyone wants to be Google they imagine they have Google's problems. I've been in a meeting where the client was talking about their severe scaling issues for their "big data" which could only possibly be resolved by state of the art cloud solutions. I pressed them on the numbers - they had 400GB. You can buy an iPhone with 512GB.
Oracle's Exadata X8-2 is ~1PB per full rack.
You may or may not know this, but the primary datastore used at both Google and FB is MySQL. Sure, they use replication and sharding, but I would strongly argue that MySQL with sharding scales better than some multi master NoSQL thing like Cassandra.
Related, you should check out https://github.com/vitessio/vitess if you haven't seen it. It's what Youtube and others use for their primary data store in production.
I didn't, but they do, surprising!
https://www.facebook.com/notes/facebook-engineering/tao-the-...
I'm almost certain this isn't true, BigTable and Spanner are much more widely used at Google because.... well, MySql doesn't really scale.
In my days it was more like "You can't afford RDBMSs at that scale". Reach a certain point and Larry gets a new yacht. Cheaper/open source offerings have moved that goal post by quite a bit.
Although it sometimes scares me how them poor databases get treated when performance is dropping. Little Jimmy JOIN is the first one to be put down, often way before there's a need for it.
MongoDB marketing?
Also RDBMS are not that difficult to scale, especially easier than an ad-hoc ORM/whatever on your application side.