https://www.nytimes.com/2015/04/04/upshot/upshot-letter-our-...
https://www.nytimes.com/2015/04/04/upshot/upshot-letter-our-...
The definition I've always used is roughly:
If I'm sitting right next to my kid and ignoring them, that's not QT. If I'm sitting right next to my kid and interacting with them, that's QT.
Even if I'm doing household chores, if my kid is watching and I answer questions they have about what I'm doing, that's QT. If I let them help out, that's QT. If I say "go in the other room and watch TV so I can get this chore done" that's not QT.
Some people seem to think if it's not a planned-out highly-structured nutritious, fun and educational activity, it's not QT which is not how I ever interpreted it.
1. They crave attention
2. If they do something wrong they reliably get lots of attention (sure they'd rather have more positive attention, but...)
3. If you don't reliably give them loads of attention for doing something right, see #2
Don't completely dismiss "garbage" time!
Watching TV might though, particularly when we talked during the commercials.
We go to a lot of sporting events and our rule is that when a ball or puck is in play, no devices - these have been the best way to share quality time with our teens.