You come up with Boeing as counterexample of software safety, really.
Tesla is compared to the industry average that is so bad that it kills a 737 load of passengers every hour. Tesla is better than average in that industry.
It is fair to debate why and whether or not Tesla could be even more above average, but that is the baseline.
Both autopilots get sometimes confused and drive into solid wall.
Boeing did recall, fix the problem and is now trying to restore trust.
Tesla just does whoopsie, we are startup, need to fix bugs. Or blames customer: "please do not use our $20k autopilot as an autopilot"
If Tesla takes safety seriously, it should at least rename its software.
I don't know where you buy your autopilot, but even with the recent price increase, autopilot is just $7k.