Ask HN: How do you learn from mistake after you note it down?

I have a diary. When I make a mistake in life or at work, I note down what happened and what I should have done. I have been doing this for years.

But I found 2 things: 1. I do not regularly re-visit these notes. Even I added some reminder to myself, when it pops, I just click it off. It seems, writing things down is more of taking care of my emotion.

2. I make same mistakes again and again. Exactly same? hardly; but I do not see much improvement.

Most of the areas are about communication and interaction with others.

Any tip?