So, you won’t date a person due to a characteristic that they can’t change or had any agency in choosing, while simultaneously decrying racism.
I just wish people could find peace...
Wait until you find out the importance of how tall a person is (specifically, how tall men are). You're in for a surprise.
And thennnn a postscript at the bottom: "must be X height."
That's also mostly a farce and social status signalling. Most of them wouldn't date a black person to save their life.
I’m currently out of the dating pool, but I had my share of preferences at that time and my potential partners did too. Preferences aren’t the problem, holding two contradicting beliefs is (it’s ok to discriminate based on unchangeable properties when dating, but wrong when setting salaries).
And I will follow the regression further to fully admit that my desire for rationality is itself a preference and not an unmitigated good.
edited to remove analogy because it distracted from the point
There are other innate traits that might factor into who we date, something about how they look, perhaps?
But point taken.
You can choose whether to have a mustache or not. A better analogy might be something like eye/hair color.
Which may be related to why those who have rolled traits which aren't in the existing power structure would be more partial towards this sort of equalizing trait to build first impression biases on
Maybe we should have a dating app that matches people based on the last digit of their social security number. The idea here is to artificially reduce supply in order to compel people to interact with someone they wouldn't usually