What's the point of "understanding” QM intuitively if it brings confusion rather than understanding?
There's also no such thing as 'observation'. Fields interact by a precise and well-tested mathematical function. That function does have the effect of mutating the state, but why should there be such a thing as pure observation? There's nothing magic about conscious observation.
At a fundamental conceptual level it does not map to anything in our normal experience - attempting to force analogies etc can end up confusing things further.
I agree with your original observation btw, but it's important to recognise the limits we may be bound by in explanation and comparison.