I haven't talked about 'intentions' anywhere either, I criticized your reasoning and you restated your beliefs. More on what I meant by "uncharitableness" is here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Principle_of_charity
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"This isn't to bemoan or disclaim my success or my hard work. The point is there are plenty of people who have worked just as hard as me, and many harder than me, who aren't having the success I am. It takes my social credentials to take a glidepath to the most interesting and advanced subjects."
"I don't feel guilty for my success but I won't be satisfied until I see a Black trans person given the social license to do what I've done"
"I can't enjoy eating until there are no hungry children in Africa". Good intentions, not a healthy way to live in my opinion.
So, any kind of moralism is just bullshit to me, and this just goes back to the "charity gap" I meant. Ppl going overboard with sermons, that is completely misguided, I don't think that was specifically the case here but I know what you're talking about.
To me this comes from insights I had from philosophy & stoicism, for the whole it's a much more complicated matter.